Your Presence Can Make a Change

kindness heartDo we ever really know the impact we have on others? A smile when walking past someone, saying hello to a stranger, holding open a door, a simple nod of recognition. Simple pleasantries that may change the course of a day for you, a loved one, a friend or even a stranger.

It was my first Christmas after my divorce I was off to the mall my list in hand to keep me on track with my shopping. I wasn’t looking forward to the crowds and I had some apprehensions about my strict budget, but I was determined to do the best I could. First thing on my list, a new sofa. I knew exactly what I wanted. I walked into the store and there it was, a cream colored camel back with a soft floral print. Made to order, it was perfect and could be delivered in a few days. My heart leaped with joy this was going to be a good day.

I methodically went through my list, my angels must have been with me because each item on the list just magically appeared. I then decided to get some lunch in the food court. To my dismay, tray in hand there was no where to sit. I spotted a woman sitting alone, I approached her and asked if she would mind sharing her table. She nodded and I sat down. She seemed sad and lost in her thoughts. I slowly started a conversation about the weather, how busy the mall was, then what I really wanted to say, how I couldn’t believe my luck about finding everything on my list without searching. My enthusiasm was bubbling over so I continued to tell her about the cookies I planned to bake that evening and so on and so on. Finally, I came up for air and noticed she was smiling. She said I wasn’t in much of a mood for Christmas this year, I’ve experienced a lot of loss and have been feeling quite sad, but you’ve changed that for me. I’m glad you came to share my table. She told me of some of the hardships she had faced and decided it was time for a change of attitude. We finished our meals, wished each other a Merry Christmas and went our separate ways.

Next, I was off to purchase a few special cards. The massive selection was daunting but I found the correct section and focused in. I then heard a young gentleman say my friend wants to wish you a Merry Christmas. Looking down there was a young man in a wheelchair typing out Merry Christmas so I could hear it. I smiled and wished him the same. Once I paid for my purchases I was again drawn to the young man walking over to him I placed my hand on his shoulder and said, thank you.

After getting into my car I sat for a moment feeling an overwhelming amount of gratitude for the way my day had unfolded and the angels I had meant along the way, the sad ones, the happy ones and the ones peacefully moving through the crowd giving an occasional nod to let me know they were aware of me and to remind me the power of a smile.

Do we ever really know the difference our presence makes? Pick yourself up, point the corners of your mouth in an upward position, stand tall and allow the magic of you to brush off the world around you. You do make a difference every day. Be kind, walk with a gentle strength, smile and that will create a beautiful space rippling out and then coming back to you. Breathe and enjoy life.


How Can You Create Your Own Vision Board?

It can be simple or as elaborate as you wish. What do you want to bring into your life? A job? A place to live? A healthy lifestyle? An outcome to a situation? What are you passionate about?

My first one was cut out pics placed in an envelope and taken out once a week. It can be one picture on your refrigerator. A phrase with pictures on a bulletin or magnetic board. Poster board is another good choice, this could also be framed. You could do it on your journal cover and place pictures throughout the pages writing your vision into reality. Remember to put energy into it, the feeling that it has already happened and is yours. Place it where you can see it, dream it into reality.

Years ago I was telling my sister how to make a board and my brother in law was listening to our conversation. She was doing hers on the bulletin board in her office when a post-it note magically appeared. My brother in law stuck it on there, it said “a better job”. It was about a week and a half later that he came home from work shortly after he left. “Your sister and her brilliant ideas. We’re all locked out the company closed down and didn’t tell anyone. Now I have to go find work.” I asked him what he meant by his post. He had always wanted to work for UPS and that’s what he was thinking when he wrote it. I told him to go fill out an application which he did that day. A few weeks later he got called for an interview sometime later he began working part time which developed into a full time position that he will be retiring from next year. Had the company he worked for not have closed he would have never gone to UPS, he would have stayed with the secure job afraid to make the change. Sometimes doors close so we take the steps to follow what our soul knows is possible.

What is your Soul telling you?

Another thing I forgot to mention in my last post. I usually say “this or something better”. There is always the possibility for more, don’t limit yourself.

Soul Coaching: Creating a Vision Board

Part of the Soul Coaching program is creating a Vision Board. Making a collage of what you want in your life. I have a story to share. Those of you that know me, yes, I always have a tale to tell.

Many years ago we moved into a big new house and we were going to get new furniture for the living room. I was in no hurry to fill it up with just anything. I had an idea of what I wanted and it wasn’t in any store that I was looking in. I began searching in catalogs and magazines. If I found a picture of something that came close to what I wanted I cut it out and placed it in my special drawer.

I had finally collected pictures of what I thought was the perfect living room. On Sunday mornings I would light a fire in the fireplace and sit down putting the pictures the way I visualized the placement of the furniture. I would sit having a cup of tea enjoying the feeling of my beautiful room. I imagined sitting with my family and friends. I imagined entertaining at the holidays.

Time passed and I began to find pieces that resembled what I wanted and purchased them as they showed up in my life. With each purchase came a sense of satisfaction. Gradually I had the room that I had envisioned.

One evening sitting around the fireplace with my family I hear my daughter gasp “oh my God”. Everyone looked up at her, “Mom, this room looks like the pictures you would place on the floor all the time.”

I smiled. Magic? Coincidence? I believe creating a board establishes focus on what we want keeping us aware of our desire. To look for what we want instead of focusing on what we are moving away from.

Magic? Well yes. I’ve always believed in magic don’t you?

Sometimes it happens in a blink of an eye other times it may take a bit longer. Enjoy each step of the adventure with a clear view of where you are going. Remove the clutter. Put some energy into your board. Don’t just slap something on for the sake of getting it done. Look at it, think about it, this is what you are creating for your future. Feel it in your Soul, let it grow, imagine. Let the magic in.